What happens to smart, educated, financially independent women that they get played up by their parents-in-law to sabotage their entire being? Get scarred for their lifetimes?
Look anywhere, any nation, any civilized society, and examples would be found easily enough. More so if the nation is developing or if the class is middle-middle. Doesn’t this ring bell for all married women across the globe for better or worse?
Women who were smart once, who could run
their lives with full confidence, get easily enslaved by these self-proclaimed Demigods.
I am not even talking about women susceptible to easy maneuvers.
What is it that makes the gang-of-parents-in-law read mothers-in-law read monster-in-law get the best of these smart flamboyant women so easily?
This is one of the blogs which I had longed to write with the whole of my heart and soul but still struggled to find the right words or perhaps that is why. Words constantly failed me while I tried to describe what I felt and still feel for this place. I am just hoping that this write up lives up to the worth of what an explorer might be looking for.
Though the entire Himalayan range is nothing less than a wonderland but a few places capture your heart forever and Sarchu is one of those places for me. Nothing could describe Sarchu perfectly than the phrase “a place absolutely out of nowhere”.
It was never on my list to explore. I hadn’t even heard of it a year ago. They say that the best things happen to you accidentally and we accidentally stumbled upon Sarchu. I have been exploring the Himalayas with my husband through road trips for years now. We have covered the entire crown of India, seeing majestic views, intimidating mountain ranges, few of the highest motorable passes in the world and what not but nothing comes close to what this fantastic place is, in my mind.
Is there only me who has heard people especially non-working women accrediting a working woman’s success to her ability to sleep with her bosses/superiors, engage in promiscuous behavior and being sexually provocative?
If you are one of the working women out there who is successful or not so successful but working by choice and reading this then may I ask if it has ever happened to you during your journey that a mentor/coach/people in principle ever tried discouraging you by telling that being ambitious is going to lead you into trade your body? And that there is just one way for a woman to be successful and that is being a tart? Well, I have been and that’s why I am here to bust the myth.
For the record let me state that I am a happily married woman and my career choices aren’t accidental either. I am very content with the way my marriage and career are blooming. Mine is a love marriage and that’s too in a country where opting for it is a single act of protest against our so-called traditional Indian values. Likewise, I have been very cognizant about my career choices since childhood and huge piece of credit for this goes to my parents who were broad-minded, supportive and encouraging at the right times and places.
So, you see I have a happy family and work-life hence this blog is not resulting out of a bad, unsuccessful, bitter marriage and spoiled relationships. And to sum it all, marriage was never an ambition or matter of achievement for me ever. I do not consider myself being over-confident saying that I have very clearly known the place of marriage and career in life.
It’s been a while since I have been mulling over connection between Fundamental rights and the role, they play in our lives primarily in an Indian woman’s life.
I have seen women around struggling to affirm their existence but not knowing where to look for, what to look up to, which premise to consider when it’s time to take some tough calls. Women have been subjected to societal exploitation and manipulation for generations and ironically, they are so habitual of taking the abuse that they almost forget to consider their existence as an equal citizen of a nation who have rights and the very rights that can protect them against all inhumanly and discriminating behaviors provided, they are aware.
Fitness in life is a non-negotiable priority. A fit body has good kinesthetic intelligence that helps perform daily functions smoothly and also protects it with good immunity. Sooner we understand this, better.
But the million dollar question remains, “how to indulge in a fitness regime that is fun”?
I had endometriosis and I don’t care if you know. I owe it to Endometriosis awareness campaign worldwide and my fellow companions (both men & women) who are still connected through social media.
I know that this epidemic affects 176 million women worldwide and I am sure thousands of cases would still be unreported/unheard. I was happy to find that there are communities and celebrities running campaigns to spread awareness against Endometriosis among women and hence I would do my part too.